So...I'm feeling a little better. I did call my Doctor yesterday. The pain on the side of my belly button was almost totally gone by then and he said that I could come in if I wanted to , but he agreed with the Doctor on call and thought that it also had to do with the round ligaments. Of course by the end of the day yesterday, I was exhausted and having shooting pains on the sides. These I know are round ligament pain, but boy do they hurt.
I have some pretty major lower back issues. My left lower back is always in pain, even when I'm not pregnant. I have a ton of morning where I cant even stand up straight. I've gone to chiropractors, but as soon as you stop going on a regular basis, it stops working. I know that this is from my gardening and it's just gotten worse over the years. Now, I'm pretty sure that it's contributing to the issues in the front. I noticed today that when I bend over, which hurts so much, I actually try to avoid it, I am clenching my abdomen! Then this causes pain around my uterus. Ugh. I have a massage in the morning with my FAVORITE massage therapist, K. She's amazing, and I'm sure she'll be able to help me out. I just know she will. I actually spoke with my primary care, but she advised against try a chiropractor unless I find one that is comfortable treating a high risk pregnant lady.
***I want to say that I'm not complaining, well, not really. I will happily take whatever I get dished out, for Jackson to get here healthy, but every little pain makes me worry and freak out, so things often are worse emotionally.*
I can't wait to see K and have her work her magic!
Sweetie I am sorry to hear you are in such pain, I hope K can help you heal some of the pain and hopefully by seeing her often you will be able to suffer less. Let us know how it all went.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about every pain makes you freak out, I believe it's only normal. Hang in there for now and make sure you rest loads and take it as easy as you can!
I hate, hate, hate that we feel like when we can't talk about the hard things of pregnancy because someone might think we are complaining. I don't think there is a single woman who has ever been pregnant who has (if honest) been able to say that pregnancy was the easiest thing ever and there was no pain or anything.
ReplyDeletePregnancy is hard!!!
I also think for a lot of us who have done IVF, we feel like if we voice any feelings about pain or discomfort, we aren't being grateful. I had HORRIBLE back pain with Matthew--barely even 5 feet and put on 50 pounds and had back pain prior anyway...it was really awful. I gladly took it and sucked it up for the baby, but it wasn't easy. When John's mom asked how I was doing and I (finally...I really didn't complain to her before) told her that my back was in some serious pain and I had been told just to stay off my feet, she said "Well, I think this pregnancy has been easy, so I wouldn't complain if I were you."
Really? It took 10 years, several procedures, a failed adoption, more procedures and constant monitoring because it was a high risk pregnancy and she thought it was EASY? Oh, and he died shortly after delivery...do I get to complain about THAT?
We are allowed to be honest about the pain and discomfort. It hurts! Doesn't mean that we are not SO grateful for the miracles we are growing, but just because we've had such horrible, horrible roads doesn't mean we aren't allowed to acknowledge the difficulties.
I'm hating the pain for you. I can relate to the physical discomfort and especially to worrying about each one and whether it's normal or not...that's hard emotionally. Glad you are getting a massage. I see a chiro, but he doesn't do much because of the pregnancy and is accredited to work with pregnancy. I also see an acupuncturist, but really think a massage therapist would be the best--maybe I need to look more into that!!!
Hope the massage is wonderful!
I agree with Lori - being an IVFer, people think that we should take every second and be grateful for it, that any successes we have make everything bad that has happened "okay." Nothing makes losing your baby okay. I am sending you hugs - I just got a massage yesterday, and it was amazing! Feel BETTER!
ReplyDeleteYou're both so right!!! I am so grateful, but I'm still a pregnant person, with aches and pains and then you throw being so afraid of everything in there, and I've become a little neurotic!!! Thanks for the support!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling much better and the massage was amazing!
The gratitude AND worry you carry with you can only be known be someone who has experienced IF. Therefore, I only think pregnant women, who have never even had to think about infertility, should not complain about pregnancy--just kidding, sort of.
ReplyDeleteAnd, it's your blog and your feelings and you can write whatever you want! Happy ICLW, I hope the massage helps so you can fully enjoy this pregnancy!
I think we are so grateful for every day that our babies are inside, but we are entitled to feel pain and be uncomfortable. The way I see it is that we feel more pain because our bodies have already gone through so much more then the average women who has gone through pregnancy with a healthy baby to show for it. Each pain we feel is felt that much more *hugs*
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